To celebrate that this Blog has a few more hits, here are a few more tips on how to date transwomen
Tip 6: Be very careful with pronouns! Speaking is a reflexive action, so before you start chatting with us make sure you can control your dialogue. Take some time to talk to friends and family members without using any pronouns. Try that for a week and tell a friend you are considering dating a trans*person, then ask if it would be ok to refer to them as another name and gender for practice. If you do that you will be one step ahead of every one else. (Difficulty 4)
Tip 7: Be brave (part 1)! The biggest problem you may face is being afraid to take your lady out in public. Before you go looking for one of us, tell some of your key friends and family members that you are considering dating a trans women, that we are not different from other women, and your orientation has not changed. If you have a preference for us you might be trans oriented. People won’t understand you for being different, but coming out of the trans-oriented closet is just like coming out of any other closet within the lgbtq community. You must admit certain things to yourself and everyone else before you can move forward with us. We will never want to be your dirty little secret so don’t make us one. (Difficulty 5)
Tip 8: Be brave (part 2)! Some may feel awkward about being seen with us. Ones desire to be accepted in society is a powerful and primal motivator. This is why I need to tell that if you want to date us the possibility for a long term relationship will need to be on the table. We will never want to be your “friend with benefits” or another hook up. What that means is after we have become a steady girlfriend, our adventure will become your adventure. You will need to face persecution with us sometimes, you will always need to stand up along side us, and you may even need to share some of our economic burden. Imagine that you could only be with a beautiful vampress after she made you one of the undead along with her. This is somewhat our situation, so now is the time to ask yourself “are we worth it”. For me love is always worth it, and even when I thought I was cis-gendered I wouldn’t have let something like danger stop me from finding the love of my life.
Tip 9: Be Brave (part 3): We must go with you into a crowded, well lit, restaurant , so before you take her anywhere, consider just taking her to a place in an lgbtq friendly area that isn’t a bar for gay men. (Lesbians can however take us to lesbian only areas) If she asks you why tell her you don’t want people giving her problems around the bathrooms, and if she wants to be taken to another place just go there with no argument. The second she thinks you are ashamed to be with her, you are out of her life. If you need to become friends with some of the staff and management at a restaurant you like, do that first. If you do that such a place will become a haven for you both when you take her there.
Tip 10: Be brave (part 4)! Our adventure becomes yours also, and one element of our adventure is hate crime. Hate crime may become a part of your adventure also. If you love to be A protector and guard women, then you have come to a great place. If however, you are more of a lover than a fighter, then you need to consider some of the danger we face. If your relationship gets to the point where you can drive to her house than just play it safe from then on. Stay in well lit, low crime areas and drive her to and from her house. I would also recommend stopping off at a gun store to buy a tazer gun, or two, and perhaps some mace to keep on you. After you do that tell her that you will protect her. Don’t let her think you will give up her life or safety because she is just an expendable experiment. I would also advise you not to seem more scared than she is. (difficulty 5)
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Well that was fun, but since I have readers now I would like to answer some questions you might have as long as they are respectful, so leave me a few questions and I will give you a few answers.
