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How to date trans-women
A guide for those who are trans- accepting and trans-oriented
(The first five basic tips)
I have many tips for you starting with the very basic at level 1, and the very difficult level 5. My tactics vary from locating us, knowing what to say, and avoiding awkward moments
Tip 1: It is not advisable to ask a trans-person a bunch of info regarding gender identity. To avoid needing to do that take some time to research information about gender identity, and gender dysphoria on your own.
Tip 2: Research is the key. Look up information about “trans etiquette” so you have an idea of what respectful language is, versus language that won’t get us to date you.
Tip 3: Always remember that a trans-women is exactly like a regular cisgender women, except we ended up with some different starting equipment. That is the only difference. This means if you expect us to jump at the first opportunity for sex, pay half the check, or settle for just guzzling beer with you at the bar, you are mistaken. You will also not be able to date a trans-women
Tip 4: Dating or courtship strategies that helped you date women will also be equally effective when dating a trans-women. Some examples of these strategies are opening doors, offering a protective escort, and giving compliments etc etc.
Tip 5: There is a phenomena known as “gender shock” in which people are taken aback by trans people who don’t pass well. The instinctual first reaction of some people is to glare awkwardly. I think you will agree though, that even those of us who don’t pass perfectly can still be very cute, so to avoid that unwanted reflex is to take some time to adjust beforehand. Look at pictures of trans-women in all of there stages of transition (consider you tube as a place for this). Additionally find a place where you expect to meet trans-women and just take some time to adjust. You will eventually get to the point where you will see one of us, you won’t need to “read” us, and you will be able to accept that you are in the company of a trans- women instantly and easily.
